tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post9010077415663800979..comments2023-08-26T17:43:53.223+02:00Comments on The Other side of me: Goodbye from him..Un Peu Loufoquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09387826515638192265noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-2563647935757946502011-09-09T08:34:12.578+02:002011-09-09T08:34:12.578+02:00I've just found you again via another blog. I...I've just found you again via another blog. I'm so sorry. It's his loss as I'm sure he'll come to realise.<br />CarolXXtoadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02890073795239873916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-677507681134674322011-07-24T21:45:55.847+02:002011-07-24T21:45:55.847+02:00No wise words from here - just best wishes for a s...No wise words from here - just best wishes for a smooth passage as you navigate the labyrinth of the days ahead.mountainearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15977393968796316843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-18651488415469067892011-07-24T19:58:52.540+02:002011-07-24T19:58:52.540+02:00Pondside wrote about your blog and I'm glad sh...Pondside wrote about your blog and I'm glad she did. My son was dumped three years ago, only the wife kept the children which has been so hard. For him, having to listen to "You weren't a good husband," "I need to find myself," "I don't love you anymore," etc., was hard to handle, especially when she moved right in with her new partner. And your friends are right, life does go on but that doesn't mean that a broken heart feels pain.Jojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09843762553010099404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-87241068655554603372011-07-23T03:20:45.199+02:002011-07-23T03:20:45.199+02:00I'm so sorry. What a rat your estranged husba...I'm so sorry. What a rat your estranged husband is...I hope you have a swift journey to a new peace and happiness. In the meantime, I wish I could help...and I'm a total stranger! What a strange place - the blogging world.Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11305293775583665402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-10709461053043237672011-07-22T16:56:57.630+02:002011-07-22T16:56:57.630+02:00Like bj and Pauline I'm visiting you today for...Like bj and Pauline I'm visiting you today for the first time, via Pondside.<br />I don't know you (yet) but I've read some of your other posts and I may be a bit previous here but I'm sticking my neck out to say "you're going to be o.k.".<br />He's gone, he's history!<br />Now you can focus on the important things; yourself and your children.<br />I believe that the best is yet to come for you all.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16778709902157945708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-81862770047595354712011-07-22T16:35:10.929+02:002011-07-22T16:35:10.929+02:00I am going through the same and in the midst of a ...I am going through the same and in the midst of a divorce, with both of us still living in the same house. As he will not leave and I have four pets to care for. Come visit my site if you wish. A friend sent me your blog link. I am talking about it, albeit obliquely since he is still here, as well.<br />BrendaBrenda Pruitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14544794729410559072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-70700967027764340422011-07-22T15:38:19.317+02:002011-07-22T15:38:19.317+02:00My first time here..over from Pondside.
So sorry a...My first time here..over from Pondside.<br />So sorry about all this. Life has a way of smacking us in the face sometimes. I don't know what to say other than I know you will be strong for your children and that this unhappiness will pass. Good good luck and many prayers....<br />xo bjbjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04432398383127199206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-80987511452874043112011-07-22T13:15:21.080+02:002011-07-22T13:15:21.080+02:00What a rat, and a fool. I am so sorry. There isn&#...What a rat, and a fool. I am so sorry. There isn't much else I can say...<br />love LampieNorma Murrayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12403421235388770309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-82548177958444370652011-07-22T10:35:21.600+02:002011-07-22T10:35:21.600+02:00Other, wiser heads have said it all, so all I can ...Other, wiser heads have said it all, so all I can say is that it's good to see you again.Chris Stovellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03741359642268813093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-44161590342378159752011-07-22T05:15:12.614+02:002011-07-22T05:15:12.614+02:00I must remember to thank Pondside for sending me h...I must remember to thank Pondside for sending me here. I've spent ages reading through your previous posts and now feel I know you well enough to suggest you just scroll down to your previous post. Your courage, your cheerfulness and your resolution will see you through. Looking back on the time I was in your position I realize its true.Paulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15276284964859313257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-49353129381285048742011-07-22T04:08:34.392+02:002011-07-22T04:08:34.392+02:00It was providential that I landed on this blog tod...It was providential that I landed on this blog today through my aimless wandering down the rabbit hole of the intranet. I have been there,in the eerily similar spot in hell. My husband told me on my 50th birthday that he had cheated on me our entire marriage, even the night before our wedding. He wrote in his diary that he never loved me. We too, were married 25 years. <br /> Death and disease would have been more tolerable than what I went through. It has been 6 years now and I survived, barely. Some parts of me are damaged beyond recognition.It's not just losing the husband that is devastating, it altered every last damn social contact, friend, and relationship I had. Many for the worst but the important ones for the better. My grown kids and I are much closer than ever..I met my closest dearest friend in my whole life, (she, brushed off after 40 years) There is a real freedom now in my life without him. Time it takes.I am so sorry for you. You write beautifully. You can garner appreciation through your prose.I heard today that men trade in because they are afraid of death. With a younger chick they can pretend they are younger. Finally, after all these years I realize I am better off without him.<br /> Hang in there.cshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16085540638231394069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-62234714415913505642011-07-22T00:19:04.538+02:002011-07-22T00:19:04.538+02:00Divorce. you can't have a happy marriage witho...Divorce. you can't have a happy marriage without one.<br /><br />If your marriage lasts for ever, eventually you get to dislike the other person intensely, or worse, you become indifferent. OK, not always, but for most that's true.<br /><br />Divorce is what it is, it happens to many. It simply means that one alliance has come to an end and a new one may now be entered into. You too will, at some time.<br /><br />Of course you were loved. Remember those heady early days? Of course they can't last for ever.<br /><br />Second time round is just as sweet, believe me, I have experience in such matters. It may take a while; for now you are licking your wounds. I wouldn't be quite so keen on the happy visage, rave and rant and swear and threaten him and the cow who ensnared him, scream and shout and wail and beat your chest.<br /><br />I absolutely promise you, you WILL become bored with the spectacle you're making of yourself and things will simmer down.<br /><br />Do a divorce blog, why don't you. You can be as foul about him and her as you like and we'll all support you.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-5004947524915492602011-07-21T23:58:24.094+02:002011-07-21T23:58:24.094+02:00I have always felt that betrayal is what leaves us...I have always felt that betrayal is what leaves us with so very little self worth, and now you must do everything in your power to build that back up. You are so talented and creative and that was not taken from you. This will be your new journey and I wish you a speedy recovery while you learn to live it for yourself and kids. Judy C in NCJudyCinNChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08060154939964224886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-23903249736583879452011-07-21T22:08:17.561+02:002011-07-21T22:08:17.561+02:00I know, because I've watched you, how amazingl...I know, because I've watched you, how amazingly you are weathering this storm, and will go on weathering.Elizabethdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02405703727112759947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-53952614758071151862011-07-21T21:35:35.809+02:002011-07-21T21:35:35.809+02:00What is that phrase about love being as ubiquitous...What is that phrase about love being as ubiquitous as grass? And of course, each ending is a new beginning. Still, best to think positively about the past, rather than negatively, because you cannot change the past in any respect. But you can change what will happen tomorrow. Something will turn up.<br />Good luck.Fenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02377814681496294457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-84214926608761993472011-07-21T11:06:40.060+02:002011-07-21T11:06:40.060+02:00Exactly! Rant and rage here perfect place for it a...Exactly! Rant and rage here perfect place for it and smile sweetly whenever in his vicinity. You are loved very much.Tattieweaslehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10723634612274763884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-24178078657259365382011-07-21T05:20:26.093+02:002011-07-21T05:20:26.093+02:00Well, there's no doubt about who's the los...Well, there's no doubt about who's the loser in this drama - your old Mister is in for a rude awakening one day and you'll be long past this the awfulness.<br />Of course you were loved - and are loved. You have three beautiful proofs (terrible English!) and they love you fiercely! (and so do we)Pondsidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02407539138546412482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-49845479047865911392011-07-21T02:12:44.368+02:002011-07-21T02:12:44.368+02:00Let me echo what Fred has said.
Having never quit...Let me echo what Fred has said.<br /><br />Having never quite gotten up the courage or whatever to ever say yes to a marriage proposal, I am in no way able to understand what you are enduring.<br /><br />However, I do know a bit and then some about betrayals, and know that the most painful come from those whom you thought you knew best.<br /><br />Healing takes time, and might not ever be quite complete (speaking from my own experience.) Still, I also know how much I do value my friends and their ability to always be there to listen to me, particularly when I do not make that much sense.<br /><br />xo ... I am also a good listener.Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5972490967689236572.post-52501081941584444072011-07-20T22:32:44.994+02:002011-07-20T22:32:44.994+02:00Vent your fury here, rage and rant, it will make y...Vent your fury here, rage and rant, it will make you feel much better and allow you to put on that happy face for your wee ones.<br />Take care<br />xFredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16269828653196889218noreply@blogger.com